Watch People Humiliate Their Kids
Child shaming seems to be all the rage nowadays. We have the guy who made his daughter wear a shirt with his face on it and parents that make their kids stand around with a sign. All very funny and great for a clip at the end of the nightly news, but is it parenting, loving or useful? Or do these people think they are living in a sitcom? I have a few questions for these so called caregivers.
My first question is: Are you proud of the attention that you are using your children to get for yourself? Make no mistake, this is about you. About you getting attention online and maybe be on the TV. You put this stuff out there and promoted it. You are using your child’s humiliation as a springboard to notoriety. You are saying to the world “Look what I made this kid do, isn’t it funny, lets all laugh at them.”
That brings me to my second question: isn’t this just good old fashion bullying? “Bullying is the use of force or coercion to abuse or intimidate others.” Public shaming is just that. It’s not a stretch to connect those ideas. The purpose of making a child stand with a sign or wear a shirt is to force a behavior through intimidation and humiliation. What does this teach the offender? The child learns that the person that is their base, their rock in the world is willing to sell them to the rabid trolls of the internet in order to get famous.
Also, a child learns to treat others the way they are treated. I don’t mean hippy crap. People are taught proper behavior. Good people learn to be good people from good people. Abuses learn their trade in a similarly structured training program.
These kids are learning that humiliation and intimidation are the paths to getting what they want. It may be a cute thing to see in a Facebook share from your aunt. After all you spent the evening wrangling the kids into bath and bed and that picture gives you your first smile of the day…at 11:00pm. But the future spouses, coworkers and children of these victims will not think the inherited torment that is funneled through the generations is so cute.
Another way to look at this: is fame, even web fame, a punishment? Kim Kardishan will never worry where her next meal is coming from or about funding her retirement because she was ‘shamed’ online.
So, you’re telling me that a member of the generation that we are told will not only kiss and tell online, but also posts pictures of the kissing, drinking, passing out and….stuff, is going to hate being famous, being on the news, talked about on the radio and written about in wordy, overwrought blog posts? “Hey look at me!!” is not a deterrent for people that spend their lives with people looking at them.
Look, there is only one thing for sure when it comes to raising kids: nobody knows anything. Every kid, family and situation is different. Who am I to say what works for you? But, as we try our best to shape the next generation can we do it without selling each other out for Facebook likes?