Advice that Single People Don’t Want to Hear.
Most of my life I have had a significant other. Other than high school which doesn’t really count anyway. This is going on the longest time of being single for me. It has been almost 8 months since I broke up with my boyfriend.
Some people LOVE being single. I am not one of those people. I like having someone in my life. As time goes on the frustration keeps building. I’m not sure if it’s me being more picky, maybe I’m scared to get hurt again and not to mention how frustrating it is to try to date being a single mom. The opportunities are less to go out and meet someone. And if you aren’t “out there” then how will you meet someone?
I try not to air my frustrations on Facebook, I really do try to be positive with most of my status updates. But honestly after having the terrible feeling of not having someone to kiss at midnight this New Year’s Eve and just the holidays in general, I have been very “Debbie Downer” about this single thing.
I have had many life lessons learned, I have worked on myself, I am happy with myself…what other advice do I need to hear regarding being single and all the things I have to do before I find “The One”???
Let’s face it, I’m 35 years old. I have 2 daughters. I am successful. I take care of myself and my children. I work 2 jobs. Dating is HARD when you are just single but adding kids to the equation is more difficult. But along with being frustrated and single comes the advice from your friends who are in relationships.
Here is my favorite of all the advice: When you’re not looking for them they find you. Here’s why I find that a bunch of crap! If all of us followed that advice who would be finding you? It also contradicts the way I have always lived my life. I have always been a person who goes after what I want. I don’t sit back and wait for things to happen I make them happen.
Here is another one: There is someone out there for everyone. What if my someone is in Australia?? Do I have to take a trip to find that perfect guy for me? Or will somehow the universe send this Australian hottie to me?
“Be Patient”: I have been patient. I am running out of it. I have never been good at being patient…There are things that I can be patient for like the food I ordered, my clothes I ordered online, and patience with my kids. But 8 months and failed attempts of Mr Right finding me is getting to me.
“You don’t need a man to be happy.” You are right I don’t NEED a man, but I WANT one. It won’t make or break me on being happy but having someone special in my life would lean towards the happier times.
“You should date __________” No, I shouldn’t date _______ if I wanted to date that person I would be dating them already!
My advice to all you advice givers is: STOP giving us advice! We don’t want to hear it. We have heard it 1000’s of times! And most of us are honestly ok with being single most of the time but we go through “ruts” of time when we are just not ok with it. And if we post a status about us not liking being single, just agree with us that it sucks and please do not give us any more advice.
What is some of the “Advice” you have heard about being single that you are sick of?